Four Weeks

We left the US on Oct. 26 and today is November 27. It’s been 4 weeks. An eventful 4 weeks.  

It’s a long trip from door to door. You leave the US and it takes ~34 hours to get home. Rusty Oft, our board chair said, “it’s almost a week’s worth of a full time job just to get here!” And for us, having 2 kids makes it feel way longer than with 1 kid. We came back to a house with no well pump (it was stolen while we were gone), so we had no access to the water in our well. So we were back to bucket showers/flushes. Mold was everywhere: car, fridge, pantry, some of our clothes. Our car battery was dead. The battery charger at the hospital is dead. We borrowed a charger, couldn’t resuscitate the battery, so we had to buy a new one. We got a shipment of barrels from the US. It’s great to get stuff for the kids, but it’s a ton of work to unpack 6 suitcases only to immediately turn around and unpack 3x 50 gallon drums. James spent a couple of days and converted one drum to a composter. He’s also working on controlling his burnout, so they interviewed and hired a new assistant. Simeon is excellent, but it takes a lot of orientation to understand the complexity of the hospital.

About a week after we got back, two board members from Loma Linda came for an in person Board Meeting. James worked for days on his presentation and it’s always a flurry of activity to prepare for guests. The day after the meeting, they headed to Liberia for more board meetings at Cooper Hospital in Monrovia. On the way our hospital driver lost control and crashed our brand new (<4 months) donated Landcruiser into the ditch. One passenger broke both his legs. Another had a severe concussion. They are lucky to be alive. I barely saw James for 48 hours as he did damage control. He was doing medical consults in hotel rooms, filling out insurance forms, ‘translating’ what the orthopedic surgeons were talking about to church leadership at the Conference, Union, and Division.

To address our stolen well pump we have fundraised to extend our compound wall to enclose our well. We’ve had a lot of workmen walking through our compound during the construction. Suspiciously, twice in the last 10 days our compound has been broken into in the middle of the night and two 50 gallon drums have been stolen. Twelve foot walls, razor wire and a security guard feels like overkill until someone still manages to steal from us without anyone noticing until >12 hours later.

Yesterday, Sierra Leone went on “shelter at home” orders because a group had attacked the armory at the military barracks. The prison was breached and many inmates set free. We were safe during all of this and were too far away to hear the gun shots. Flights were cancelled for the day and many of our friends spent the whole day hearing gun fire and making escape plans while keeping their go-bag nearby. The streets are quiet today and there is now a nightly curfew in effect. 

It has been a lot. And all of this on top of adjusting to being parents of two, a 3 month old that is struggling to handle the heat and constant noise, taking bucket showers, dealing with never-ending diarrhea in our newly potty trained newly-back-in-African-daycare toddler.

It also all happened in the midst of taking a volunteer to the beautiful, peaceful beach nearby, Thanksgiving with our dear friends here, and play dates with other families with children.

And this is just what has affected our life. The hospital continually churns with crazy cases and sick patients. We called the health department for a case that met the criteria to screen for Ebloa. They said “Great, draw some samples and we’ll be by in a few days to pick up the sample.” While we were back in the States one of our hospital staff lost his 2 year old when she became suddenly severely ill in our hospital. Another staff became involved in Black Magic saying she was cursed by a witch. She has pictures of the witch doctor treating her. Due to this she is separated from her husband and no longer has a job or way to pay her children’s school fees. We gave our laundry lady a loan to buy a phone which was then promptly stolen from a charging station she took it to. Whenever we get back to Sierra Leone there are so many people just waiting for us to come back to ask for help.

Sometimes it feels like we are under attack here - everything builds on itself: no water in the house, the constant begging from strangers, thieves in our compound, scary car accidents, violence in the streets, witchcraft, children dying. It feels heavy. It feels dark. 

But we take comfort in this: The dark is not dark to God. God is hope. God is light, and we are not alone. 

Psalm 139: 12: Even the darkness is not dark to you; the night is bright as the day, for darkness is as light with you.

Inferiority Complex

There’s a community of missionaries in Waterloo that are a Godsend for us. They have been here years longer than we have, they have practice raising children in Sierra Leone, and they are great people who will be lifelong friends.

 

Occasionally people will talk about raising children in Africa as compared to kids in the US. One topic I find particularly interesting is the speculation on how our children will view race. In America there is lots of discussion about race, racism, and injustice. As is unfortunately more common recently, the ideas and discussion around these topics is muddied by politics.  But I’ve heard some American parents in Sierra Leone talk about how our children won’t see racism the same as if they were raised in the US. And I think that’s true, but a recent experience makes me realize how much more insidious racism can be. But first, a little backstory.

 

 

I have been working with the nurses to improve the quality of our care for 2 years (but it seems like decades). It’s a give and take dialogue where I give feedback about their work and they give constructive criticism to me about how the providers are doing. One of the routine complaints that I get is that patients are discharged too early. I initially got this feedback in 2020 and I promptly changed my spiel to patients when discharging to something like this:

“You’ve only been taking oral medicines and every day you’re improving. You can take the same medications at home, receive the same treatment, and not have to pay our hospital bed fees. What matters to me is that you get the right treatment, not where you are. If you want to stay here and pay the nightly fees, fine. If you want to go home and continue exactly the same medicines, fine. It’s your choice.”

 

Since, 2020 every single patient I’ve discharged it has been their choice to go home. So I was quite surprised when at this month’s meeting the nurses again complained that I was discharging people too early. I told them my modified discharge speech and they replied,

 

Africans have an inferiority complex and sometimes they don’t speak their mind and just do what the doctor says.

 

That phrase, ‘inferiority complex’ has been stuck in my mind for weeks. How is it that regardless of socioeconomic status or regional differences, the Africans still feel ‘inferior’ to me. What is it that makes me ‘superior?’

It’s not my education. Our surgeon and medical director, Dr. Kabba has had years more training than me. He’s both a physically large man and the leader of this institution, but I’m a skinny white dude who has to ask permission to sign any official documents.

 

The only other thing that comes to mind is the color of my skin. Foreigners who come to SL are frequently well educated and quite wealthy and anyone with white skin is often treated like royalty. Patients sometimes trust my medical opinion on surgery more than they trust Kabba’s, even though he’s the surgeon. My theological conclusions in church or morning worship are never debated, just accepted. I can just walk down the street and complete strangers will say ‘Thank you’ as I pass. As we walk through the market with Liam, people shout marriage proposals to him, even though he’s only 11 months old. Children line up to touch his pale skin. The admiration of Liam is so constant that sometimes it almost feels to me like worship.

 

As any parent proclaims, I’m sure my son will grow up to be smart. But how will it affect him to have the local children always assume he is the smartest? How will it shape his development where every black person around him will treat him as someone superior due to Liam’s economic status? Already the staff refer to him as ‘Dr. Fernando’ or ‘my boss.’ Will he have a distorted self-worth since he will always be the center of attention as one of the very few white children?

 

Sure, racism feels different in Sierra Leone than in America. But here, I sense a certain level of ‘internalized racism’ where the people inherently believe that white people are superior. Liam will spend his childhood treated as the wonderful ‘apoto’ boy who is somehow different from the local kids. Just because my son will grow up as a minority, doesn’t mean that there isn’t opportunity for racism to sneak in.

 

 

 

 

Houseguest

 I had another moment where I thought, “Wow, Africa has changed me.”

There is a 3000L tank on a cement tower that supplies the water to our house. The tank is clear, so that you can see when the water is running low. The local government quit supplying our community water less than a year after our arrival in 2019. (Something about fixing a dam. The first people messed it up. The second crew hired worsened it.) So for a long time we were buying water from a big truck that would come and fill all our tanks for about $150. Early in 2021 John Campbell, another missionary near us, installed a pump into our hand dug well behind our house. It’s great! You run the generator and then the water goes into the tank. But now that we’re using the well, there seems to be an increase in algae growing in our tanks. This algae occasionally will come into the plumbing inside the house and clog our pipes that are cemented into our walls. This requires us to break the cement, find the pipe, change the section affected. Not fun. So we installed a mesh filter between our tank and the house. Intermittently the mesh will be overgrown with algae again and our water pressure is terrible. One shower doesn’t work, the other is a dribble. We run the shower for 30 minutes to fill one bucket to shower out of. Toilets take forever to fill.

Jump to last week. One of our dearest friends, an American Missionary woman who will remain un-named because I haven’t asked her permission to tell this story, is visiting for dinner. We tell her about our water troubles and she completely understands. She’s lived here a long time and is married to a Sierra Leonian. It got late and before taking the long bumpy drive home, she excuses herself to the bathroom. It was a lovely evening. As I get ready for bed, I use the toilet and see there’s still urine in the bowl. I am not in the least distressed (because water conservation is normal) and I’m actually quite pleasantly surprised. Now the toilet won’t be filling for 30 minutes making our bedtime routine impossible. She was such a considerate houseguest to not flush the toilet!

 

 

Here's a picture of me trying to clean out the algae from around a submersible pump in our tank. I'm not sure why Rachel is missing a shoe.

Culture Change

Talking about ‘changing a culture’ is quite prevalent. Topics range from institutional culture, the effects of Hollywood, anti-vaccine movements, or even how welcoming churches are to visitors. But until recently, I’ve never really understood how difficult that can be.

 

Early in my time in SL, the massive stigmatization around HIV seemed silly to me. HIV is treatable, the drugs are free, and it’s extremely difficult to transmit just with casual acquaintances or even housemates. If you take the drugs regularly, you can live a normal life. What’s the big deal with the stigma? Why are people so afraid? But the longer I’ve been here, the more I understand.

 

I’ve heard stories of a wife finding out she is positive, then her and her children are driven away from the husband’s home. Neither her own family nor the husband’s family were willing to house or support her. People lose jobs, churches, and livelihoods. With the prevalence of the disease as high as 2%, almost everyone is acquainted with someone who’s positive. But due to the extremely high risk of ostracization if the diagnosis is public, people keep secrets and so the perceived prevalence of HIV is much lower than what is actual. Which makes it all the more stigmatizing because it seems like a rare disease.

 

With all of the social pressures, I’ve really started to behave like a Sierra Leonian. Even if the patient is unconscious and on death’s door, I never tell the family about the HIV diagnosis. I will frequently write a vague diagnosis on the death certificate if the family doesn’t know the HIV diagnosis. Those secrets are just too volatile to be rash with.  If I have a patient who tests positive, I always bring them into my office to have a one-on-one discussion. But if I suspect a language barrier, I’ll bring along a nurse to translate. And that’s exactly what I did last week. I had a patient who tested positive, spoke a tribal language, and was quite obstinate and wanted to go home. I didn’t have high hopes for the encounter because often people say “I don’t believe your tests. I don’t have it.” And then they just leave the hospital and my guess was that she would be one of those types. But then something happened that surprised me.

 

The patient and the nurse were bantering in a local tribal language, Temne. It was quite clear that what I had said wasn’t the only thing being told to the patient. But I’ve had this nurse translate many times in the past and I trust her to be faithful to the concepts of my message to the patient. After the dialogue slowed down, I turned to her and asked what she told the patient. “I told her that I have HIV and you can live a normal life if you take the medicines.”

 

I just sat there aghast. I suspect my mouth was hanging open. Previously, I had no idea this nurse was HIV positive. And not only is she positive, but she just told a complete stranger!

I stared blankly ahead as my brain tried to catch up. Why would she tell this patient her secret? This patient seemed like the type of person who will walk around and blabber mouth what she found out about the nurse.

 

Words start to form in my mouth, “I had no idea.” But thankfully, my brain edited those words before they came out. Next idea came, “You shouldn’t have told her!” but those were repressed too. Eventually, after painful seconds, I said “Ok, let’s warn her that when she starts the treatment, she’ll initially feel nauseous. But I can give some medicine to reduce the side effects.”

 

As the interview progressed, the entire demeanor changed. The patient started making eye contact. Her body language opened up. She started engaging and asking questions rather than just giving the flat denials of before. With the addition of trust, the patient seemed like a new person to me.

 

I just couldn’t get this encounter out of my head. I constantly rage against the stigmatization of HIV, but when there’s a chance to make change my gut reaction is fear for my staff whom I care about. It’s like I want things to change, but I hate to see my staff risk themselves. The hypocrisy (maybe cognitive dissonance?) of that really has been eye opening for me. It’s a beautiful reminder of what true healing looks like as well as an example of how far I need to grow still. I may have more education than some people, but that doesn’t mean that I’m qualified or capable to provide healing. The healing this patient needed was trust. Something I might not have been willing to give.

 

A positive change in the culture is impossible with an attitude of fear like I had. But I thank God that he puts his people in the right place at the right time to bring healing to His children. It was truly humbling and inspiring to see that in action through that nurse. I pray that God will send His Spirit on all of us, that we can be like that nurse and have the courage and trust to do what’s right.

 

 

Addendum:

In residency, while studying how powerful placebo medicines are, I thought it would be great to be able to just give patients placebo tabs. It’s a harmless intervention that absolutely helps. Today, I just realized somebody gave me placebo.

 

I showed my essay above to the nurse in question. I wanted to get her permission before posting something so personal. She responded, “I don’t actually have HIV. I just saw that she needed trust and confidence, so I lied and told her I did have HIV. We might have saved a life that day.”

 

What‽ I totally believed she had HIV. But just like I sometimes want to give patients sugar pills, apparently this nurse saw that this patient needed ‘sugar trust.’ It never even crossed my mind that faking vulnerability to gain trust would be so therapeutic. But wow, lying to a patient about my own condition certainly feels a lot different than prescribing sugar pills as placebo. I’ve got a lot to think about these days.

 

 

 

Openness

 Sometimes it takes people asking me questions in order for me to be able to articulate the things that I’ve learned.

Currently we have a medical student volunteer from Germany visiting the hospital. She brought along almost €300 donated to her by her family and friends to help the people of Sierra Leone. Even in just two days of working at the hospital she already can clearly see the desperate need of people. This morning she brought me the money and said “I want to give this to you so that you can help the patients who really need it.” And that prompted me to reflect on the last several months of personal growth in new ways.

I’m finding that living in Sierra Leone is challenging a lot of my cultural habits. When living in the states, I was always reticent to give to the beggars you see by the side of the road. My rationale being that I want to make sure my money goes to the people who need it most. And roadside assistance can be hit or miss with true and actual need. As I bring these habits into Africa, I find myself only wanting to help the poorest of the poor. If I think the family can scrape together enough money, call enough relatives, or sell enough of their assets, they are somehow less deserving of my help. And the more I have stopped to analyze this behavior, the more it seems like I am somehow assigning value or “worth“ to different people. This is exactly the conundrum that our volunteer came to me with this morning. She wants her money to go to where it’s “really needed.”

But today is an unusual day. A week ago we had a patient come to the hospital who couldn’t pay a single cent. He’s a 15-year-old man who for the last six months has had a massive dental abscess. The pus has drained from his face down into his neck and in multiple places he has open wounds that continually drain pus. He’s been on several courses of antibiotics and still his disfigurement remains. Our new dentist in Sierra Leone, Mel Bersaba, saw this boy and rightfully felt pity for him. So he single-handedly pulled as many strings as he could and we were able to get this man to see the top dentist and dental surgeon in the country. He got a CT scan of his face that showed the infection has been eating away at his jaw bone. The specialist recommended surgery as soon as possible. Dr. Bersaba spent hundreds of dollars to get all of this done. But today when it came time for the driver to take the patient to the hospital for a coronavirus test prior to surgery on Thursday, the patient refused to get into the car. I looked him straight in the eye and told him that if he did not have the surgery, which will cost him absolutely nothing, he would be dead in less than a year. After a long discussion I got to the root of the problem: he says both him and his mother had the same dream. During surgery at the hospital he will die.

I begged, pleaded, and explained to him why I was afraid for him. I told him that I believe these dreams are from the devil and the devil is just trying to kill him. If he does not have the surgery, he will die. I told him that I don’t fear surgery, coronavirus, or humans. But I do fear that demons are trying to harm him. I told him the only way to overcome those dark forces is with God, prayer, and courage. He declined my offer to pray for him because he’s Muslim. Just a few hours ago he left and went back to the village.

What am I to think about this? Did we spend hundreds of dollars, waste the time of top specialists in the country, and dedicate our days to a cause that wasn’t worthy? I think a year ago I would’ve thought so. This country has started to change me. If I am truly to emulate Christ, I don’t just dedicate myself to those I deem “worthy“. How often does God “waste“ his love, time, and blessings on me or other sinners like me? The idea of worth is not how Christ sees the world. And I am slowly starting to reframe my ideas around success.

I think there is value in living a life open and generous enough that some of your projects “fail“ by human standards. In the past I have been far too stingy for fear of failure. When I think about God’s continual commitment to an earth filled with failing human beings, I think that’s the kind of love I’m expected to emulate.

If an institution took this approach all the time, it would be exploited to bankruptcy. But I encouraged my volunteer to keep the money she has and continue to observe and learn for a few more days before deciding how to use it. Deciding how to use a limited amount of money is very Sierra Leonean. Do I feed the healthy children that I have, or do I spend money on the child who is sick? Feeling that tension will help her to understand the culture. But I also encouraged her to challenge the idea of that some people are more worthy than others. It’s a very American idea that I have grown up with and has only started to slowly change in the last several months. It’s hard to live an open life where your time in money ends up in “failure,” but it’s something I aspire to do. And daily I try to remind myself that the work we do might not bear fruit in this lifetime, and that’s not my problem. I’m called to live an open and generous life that runs quite counter to my American culture.

 

 

Furlough 2021

 

Wow, it’s been a long time and so much has happened in the past few months. To catch up, let’s go back to March 2021. Buckle up, this is a long one.

 

Rachel’s very pregnant and it doesn’t seem to faze her at all. She’s working full days in the hospital, cooking and cleaning like there’s been no change. A pregnant woman is always an exciting thing in Sierra Leone. Both pregnancy and infanthood are so tenuous that people tend to celebrate every little thing. There’s a nurse at the hospital who’s due date is just a month earlier than Rachel’s. They take maternity pictures together and it’s a very exciting time.

 

Rachel is scheduled to go back to the US about 5 weeks before her due date and thankfully travels without incident. The most memorable ‘amenity’ of being pregnant happens in the Lungi airport. The staff see she’s pregnant and decide that they need to help her move her carry on everywhere. So when she has to go to the bathroom, they follow her in , escort her to a stall, and get to listen to every detail. Privacy clearly means something different in Africa. Thankfully the rest of the trip is uneventful.

 

After her departure I’m left alone for about 3-4 weeks with plans to return to the US about 2 weeks before the due date. She left food for me in the freezer, a list of things to pack and do before leaving, as well as sticky notes around the house with cute little notes. Some of them seem like she can see the future. Sometimes when I’m hungry and too lazy to cook (or even reheat), I’ll just eat peanut butter off of a spoon. When I get to the peanut butter in the pantry I pick it up and there’s a note: “This had better not be your whole meal.” BUSTED in absentia!

 

Later in the week the nurse with a similar due date goes into labor. A nurse is called to perform the delivery and things don’t go well. The baby is tachypneic (breathing too fast) and hypoxic (low oxygen). They call Dr. Kabba and he arrives as quickly as possible, but not before some unnecessary procedures were done. He stabilizes the child who is then reunited with the mother. A few hours later the condition worsens again and Dr. Kabba is called to return. He works on the baby for several hours, even needing to provide positive pressure with a bag valve mask (forcing air into the lungs because the baby is too weak to breath). After several hours he calls me in for backup and we continue to work throughout the night. The condition doesn’t improve and by morning we teach the family to provide the breaths and we go home to rest for an hour or two. After a quick catnap, I return to the hospital to find the baby in worse condition and it’s time to make a difficult decision. Do we keep the baby here where we have good staff but inadequate pediatric supplies or do we send the baby to the government hospital where there are more resources but occasionally they are inadequately staffed? We decide to send the baby to the bigger hospital. At this point my apple watch tells me I’ve stood at least one minute out of every hour for the last 23 of 24 hours. I’m exhausted and the day has just begun and patients are arriving to be seen.

 

I check back throughout the day with both the mother and the baby. The baby’s condition slowly worsens and she dies within 24 hours of transfer. The tradition in Sierra Leone is that you don’t tell the mother about the baby’s death until she has ‘recovered’ from labor. So I’m forced to smile and nod when she tells me, “they tell me the baby is getting better at the other hospital.” The next night I get a call around 11pm and the mother needs help with her breast pump, as she’s excitedly pumping milk for her deceased child. I decide it’s better to not tell Rachel all the details and I give her a vague idea of what’s going on before I go to sleep.

 

At 5AM I wake up to see lots of missed calls from Rachel and the phone currently ringing. I pick up and she tells me her water has broken. It’s only been 10 days since she arrived in the US and a month before the baby is due. I’m not supposed to travel for another 2 weeks! I immediately start to work: buying plane tickets, packing to travel, preparing the house (absolutely everything needs to be put into totes), paying all the bills we owe, preparing for ways to pay our security and house keeper while we’re gone, and the most difficult – get a COVID test. At 7AM I call Emily and Peter Sheriff who know someone at the lab. They pull all the strings, pay all the ‘tips,’ I get swabbed, and after a few hours I’m sitting at the airport without a COVID result. I don’t have any money for transportation or a hotel. I’ve banked everything on this test coming through. And thankfully it does.

 

I get to check in and the agent says, “there’s something wrong with your ticket, they’re waiting for you in the office upstairs.” I go to the office and the problem is that I have two layovers in the EU. After the US banned EU citizens from entering due to COVID, similar restrictions were placed on US citizens. Individual airlines and cities negotiated exemptions, but my ticket violated that. I told the agent my story and he looked at me and said, “you’re a desperate man aren’t you?”

 

With the changes, I wasn’t able to fly directly to Bismarck without an 18 hour layover. So we orchestrated a plan where my mother would meet me in Atlanta airport and join me on a flight to Minneapolis. My long time friend, Chris Block, would drive from Bismarck and pick us up in Minneapolis. Mom would drive through the night and Chris would sleep as he had to work at 7AM the next morning. By the time I arrive in the hospital, it’s been 52 hours since Rachel called.

 

I get to the locked maternity unit and my sleep deprived brain says into the speaker, “This is the late husband of Rachel Fernando.” Only the next morning did I realize it sounded like I was dead and not just late for the birth. Rachel sleepily greets me and we had a brief conversation before heading to the Neonatal ICU.

 

Liam was born more than 24 hours prior to my arrival and was tachypneic and hypoxic, so he was admitted to the NICU. Sound familiar? It quickly dawned on me that my son had exactly the same symptoms as the baby I had just worked on for days. But Liam had the luck to be born in the US.

 

The culture shock was like nothing I had ever experienced. As I sat in the NICU, I had absolutely no concerns for Liam. He was in the best hands and improving with ‘simple’ things I was unable to provide to another new born just days earlier. The relief of arriving and the joy of a first born child mixed with the fatigue of travel and grief of losing a different baby just unlucky to be born in different circumstances. I couldn’t help but think that my son lives simply because of our wealth while our friend’s baby is born with identical symptoms and dies. The culmination of those few days left in me a strong understanding of the cruelty of this unjust world. All we truly have to cling to, regardless of our place of birth, is the hope of the second coming and resurrection. What good news it is, but how easily we forget until we are jerked to our senses.

 

Liam recovered quickly and was discharged without incident a week later. We spent some time in North Dakota with Rachel’s parents, then went to Tennessee to spend time with my family. After our arrival in TN, Rachel began to have severe abdominal pain. We did some investigations and found out her IUD had perforated her uterus and was loose in her abdomen requiring surgery. Coordinating all of the imaging and surgical preparation when your primary doctor is in ND and the patient is in TN is quite difficult. Finding someone to perform the surgery took another several days of struggle. Eventually the surgery was scheduled, but it became clear that we would have to delay our return to Sierra Leone.

 

The surgery went off without a hitch and Rachel recovered quickly. But soon another deadline approached. The day after we received Liam’s passport, we mailed our passports to the Sierra Leonian Embassy in DC for visas. Things went smoothly with the embassy but the US Postal service lost our passports in the mail. The tracking showed that they bounced between DC and North Carolina for 2.5 weeks, then went to Atlanta for a few days. We called every number we could find, but nobody could assist us. It came down to Friday when we were scheduled to fly on Monday. Should we get a mandatory travel COVID test on Friday even though we don’t have passports? The mail runs on Sabbath but not Sunday, and our flight leaves at 7AM on Monday. We decided to step out in faith. Sure enough, the passports arrived on the last possible day.

 

We arrived in Sierra Leone two days ago still shell shocked by the last few months. It’s wonderful to be back and every old challenge seems new and different now that we have Liam. COVID is still a huge challenge for Sierra Leone and the 3rd wave has been much more lethal than previous waves. Looking back, it’s easy to see God blessing through difficult circumstances and we believe he will continue those blessings now that our family is just a little bigger.

 

Thanks for reading and thanks for all your prayers and support.

 

 

  

Some not too sad stories

There are things in Sierra Leone that are starting to seem normal, but when we say them out loud it sounds ridiculous. I want to compile a few of those stories here.

The first is a story from Rachel. During COVID all of the outpatient services were constrained to one room in one building: Registration, Payment, Consultation, Minor Procedures and dressing changes, etc. There’s basically no privacy as every section is just separated by fabric curtains. A patient came in with a large laceration on her leg from falling in the market onto some exposed rebar. It became infected and she had to come back daily for dressing changes and wound care. Sometimes she would be screaming so loud with the dressing changes that we’d have to shout to hear our clinic patients. But nobody seemed to mind.

We use honey dressings for their antibacterial properties and this woman really needed it. They keep the honey in a plastic water bottle, but this bottle was running low. Since everyone pitches in, a lady from accounts grabbed the 20L container that we store the extra honey in. She used a scoop to fill up the small water bottle and handed it to the nurse. I watched as the nurse applied the honey to the patient’s wound. But when I looked to my left, there was the lady from accounts, standing right next to the patient, licking the honey from the scoop! (Why waste honey??) Can you imagine being a patient and watching someone eat the very thing a nurse is putting directly into your wound?!

Another instance is regarding our night security, Pa Brima. This guy works very hard. He has both day and night jobs most of the time. When he comes for his shift at our house, he usually changes clothes into something more comfortable for the evening that he doesn’t mind if they get dirty. One night we have other Americans coming over for dinner. As is usual, we decided a time for them to arrive. When Brima came for the evening, I warned him that they were coming at 7 PM. The appointed time comes and I hear a honk at the gate. I go outside and I see Brima opening the gate for the car. His shirt is half pulled on and wadded up around his nipples; thankfully his undershirt was properly positioned. He doesn’t have any pants and is wearing only boxers. Everyone gets out of the car and happily greet him because they know him from another job. Then we all go into the house. Nobody mentions it. It’s somehow normal for our security to be half dressed.

Lastly, a story from a patient in the ward. On one of our mobile clinics, John Max Conteh (one of the midlevel providers, a CHO), saw a child who was 7 months old and weighed less than 3 kg (6.5 lbs). This is the most malnourished child I’ve ever seen. This child’s name is Neneh (a girl’s name) even though he is a boy. The mother had so many baby boys die, that when she saw this one was a boy she gave it a girl’s name in hopes that whatever killed the others wouldn’t effect this baby. I sat next to the woman and baby on the bed and facing us was the husband sitting on another bed. I was asking them questions about their living situation, their other children, this child’s birth, etc. I asked if the mother was breast feeding and she was. I asked if she was making much milk and instead of answering the question, she just pulled her breast out of her shirt and squeezed it. Breast milk came out more like water than milk because of her malnutrition. But when she squeezed it flew out and sprayed all over her husband who was sitting directly across from us! I was the only one who was surprised by this, everyone else carried on the conversation as normal. “See, she’s making milk.” 

Anywhere you live, life can be sad and life can be strange. But the longer you hang around, the more normal things seem. I think this is how cultural blind spots are formed. But for now, I still relish the cartoonish absurdity of daily life.